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Hey every1, I was hanging out with some of my friends back at home over the spring break, who go to public schools, and all that some of them seemed to talk about was who slept with who and just in general about how they have to get laid. Then I thought to myself how much everything has changed, I mean even now in high school it has become normal to have had sex as a freshman, not to mention middle school. I mean, just look at the show BEVERLY HILLS just a couple of years ago, where having sex on prom night was a huge,huge,huge deal. ha, now, it's like every night you go out you have to have it. Ugh, that just disgusts me, because I guess the school that I go to doesn't have lot of that, and really the values that I have been brought up with really don't agree with what's going on within our teenage society. Don't get me wrong though, I am not someone that believes in being married before :making love. But, that certainly doesn't mean that I will have sex with any guy available. It sickens me when I go to mall and all I see is these girls throwing themselves at guys. COME ON!! have some respect for yourselves, and really at least try and find someone you love or at least think you love and are sure feels the same way about you at the time, instead of just looking at the popularity of the guy or his looks. I don't know, I guess having respect and thinking logically about things before doing them is just something that has become invisible to the teens of today. In any case, MY QUESTION TO ALL OF YOU IS JUST WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT THE "SEX ADDICTION" OF TEENS TODAY OR JUST GENERALLY WHAT IS THE SITUATION LIKE AT YOUR SCHOOL OR WHERE YOU LIVE AT NOW CONCERNING SEX? I know that that phrase sounds absurd, but seriously let's face it, it has become that within so many teens of today. Thanks and bye
Tamara
well i am a junior in high school. I totally agree with what u said. it's pretty much the same thing were i live. I think you should have sex when ur old enough to understand what love is. Some people just abuse the word love, some people who are even 12 will just say that word and not even mean it. And love is inportant part of sex. I think people who are doing it in high school need to think about the consiquences. If they get pregnant what will they do? and plus, they have there whole lives ahead of them to be doing that kind of stuff. I, myself is in no hurry to do that.
My school is a pretty liberal and diverse school in NYC. We're treated as adults and are respected by teachers. I don't think there is a "sex addiction" present in my school. If anything it serves as an ongoing joke amongst friends but other than that I do not see a problem. Yes there are many people in my school who are having sex but from what I understand it hasn't gotten to the point of "So who'd you sleep with this weekend?" kind of thing. Many of the ones who are are some of the most responsible people I know. I also think that the level of maturity also plays in. Although I disagree with any sort of R. Kelly type deals but oh I think you understand what I mean.
Joliz
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Alright, I've seen a lot of different people in my life, and I've definitely run across a few of those "sex addicts," but not so many that I would even THINK of generalizing teens as being sex crazed. Sure, myself, I have no plans about that sort of thing for any time in the near future, but I know some of my friends are already having sex, and some that have been "doing it" for quite a long time. I agree, people shouldn't have sex until they have thought it through, and most definitely found someone that they truely love and care about. My friends don't go around doing the whole "who did you sleep with" routine. Sex talk comes up, and we can go on about it for ages, but I don't criticize them for it (unless they've gone and done something totally, incredibly insane.) To every person their own decisions. Sure, I may not approve of one of my friend's life choices, but I won't condemn them either.
I don't understand why people are in such a rush to have sex. All it is seen as today as another purely physical act to do that 'feels good'. Sex, it seems, has become another extracurricular activity. It sometimes sickens me to think that the youth of today have lost sight for the value of sex and what sex is all about. I am a believer that sex is meant to dwell in the context of marriage. Sex is the joining of two people (and another thing, I believe the married partners should be of opposite sexes, but that's another story) to be one spiritually, emotionally, physically, and in the bonds of love. Sex is a special gift given to us to express our love for our spouse. If you sleep with anyone in pants before you get married, what special event takes place after you get married? It's not special any more; it's just another pleasurable act we do with just a life partner. For hundreds of years, man has desecrated the value of sex and sexuality in our lives, and we, the future, can slowly return to morality and seek the value of sex within a marital bond--if we all (that means everybody) choose to do so.
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